We’ve all been there – you’re in a relationship with someone and you think things are going great. But then you start to question things that they’re doing. It starts with just some odd behaviour, and then you start to make excuses for your partner. Sometimes it’s harmless, but there’s also a chance that your partner is certifiable. This post is to help all you men out there to know whether or not your girl is crazy. There are certainly different degrees of craziness. Some of which, might require professional help. In this four-part series, I will show you some signs that your girl might just be crazy. I hope that it helps.
1. She’s unbelievable in bed.
It’s an undisputed fact that crazy women are incredible in the sack. That’s how they get you. You will likely want to stick around because, well, the sex is great. That’s not to say that everyone who is good in bed is crazy. But it can be a sign, so watch yourself.
2. She’s got the crazy eyes.
We all get crazy eyes from time to time—from stress, lack of sleep, etc. But if you’re constantly looking into crazy eyes, she’s crazy.
3. She runs hot and cold.
She loves you; she hates you; you’re the only one for her; maybe it’s not working out. Does her mood change constantly? Let me clarify something. All women have a range of emotions. Some are better at controlling them than others. Just because she’s angry in the morning and happy in the afternoon, doesn’t necessarily mean she’s crazy. But if it happens daily, and there are least 4 emotions involved, she is crazy.
4. Your texts and emails have been mysteriously deleted.
What happened to your communications with your friends and family? This is definitely a red flag if you think she’s been deleting them. Why does she have access to your email anyway?
5. She makes drastic changes to her appearance.
Some girls like to mix it up every now and then, and that’s cool, but too drastic too often indicates identity issues. And shaving her head is a dead giveaway. Can you say Britney Spears?
6. Everything anyone says about her is a lie.
Odds are, she’s been called crazy before, and this is her attempt at heading that off at the pass. So if she says there’s something wrong with everyone that she knows, you can be sure that the problem with her, and not them.
7. All other women are bitches.
Girls can be jealous if they see their man hanging out with other women. It’s intimidating. But if she doesn’t get to know the other woman at least, and she suggests that she’s a bitch, you might be dating a crazy person. Women are also protective of their relationships, so this one requires you to walk a fine line.
8. All other women more attractive than her are whores.
I can certainly appreciate another woman’s beauty. I often point that out to my boyfriend. Yes, it does bother me a little when he points to other women in a way that suggests they are beautiful. But I think that a little bit of jealousy is normal. If your girl is calling anyone you look at a whore, or worse, then she has some large issues of insecurity. Which is a hop, skip and a jump away from crazy-town.
9. She’s admitted to stalking someone before.
If she’s admitted to stalking someone, there is a problem. In defense of women, however, sometimes guys can just drive us to do some really crazy things. Especially when we’re young. That’s no excuse. Stalking is not acceptable. If the story takes place when she’s 20, and involves the first love of her life, let it go. If it happened a week or two ago, get the hell out, immediately.
10. Everyone wants to ruin her because they’re jealous.
See number 6 and 7. Jealousy is a natural feeling to have in a relationship, but it usually goes the other way. You’re usually jealous of other people. If she’s convinced that people are jealous of her, she’s narcissistic. Which means you’re not in a good relationship.
11. She clings tightly to “truths” she’s decided on, even if there’s no evidence to support them.
Crazy people tend to spend a lot of time inside their own head, where there’s no one else to inject things like… you know… logic or reason. Once she’s fixated on something, she never changes her mind. As a neurotic individual myself, I also spend a lot of time in my head. But what I benefit from is a voice of reason. Usually, that’s my boyfriend, but sometimes it’s friends. If I let it go for too long without checking it, it can turn into crazy. The truths I tend to believe are about myself – I’m not good enough, I’m not attractive enough etc. But if she’s clinging to a truth that is about you or another person, and you can’t talk her out of it, she’s definitely crazy.
12. Her place is either too messy or too clean.
This signals that she lives in extremes. But just because she has a really clean house, doesn’t necessarily mean she’s crazy. It could mean that she has OCD, which is alarming, but treatable/manageable. If she refuses to clean her house because there’s nothing wrong with pizza boxes, rats, and mold, then there’s something wrong.
13. All her ex-boyfriends are still madly in love with her.
Crazy people tend to be narcissistic and would assume that their ex-boyfriends are still madly in love with them. There’s a difference between a little bit of hubris in a joking way, and convincing yourself that your ex is pining over you. Keep this in mind when assessing your girlfriend.
14. She likes to “surprise” you.
Everybody likes fun little surprises every once in a while, but if she keeps showing up where she’s not invited, like work or guys’ night, there’s a good chance she’s watching your every move.