Have you ever been in a situation where you find out the guy that you’re “seeing” is in a relationship? And the excuse that he gives when you find out is that “you didn’t ask”? If so, you’re not alone. This speaks volumes about the guy, but it also speaks volumes to what your “relationship” actually is. I’m not saying its your fault. At all. But defining your relationship isn’t a bad thing. Guys don’t want to do that, but at least establishing that it’s exclusive or not will definitely help you in the long run. I have to ask the question, though – who’s responsibility is it? Should the girl have to ask? Or should the guy be straight with her about what’s happening in his life?
I feel bad for both women in this instance. Neither one of you knows about the other, and you’re the ones who are going to get hurt in this scenario. So why do it guys? My big problem with relationships is when one partner isn’t honest with the other partner. Regardless of what it’s about, and even how much it hurts. I have said time and time again – I would rather be hurt than lied to. I would rather have my feelings hurt, than to know that my partner is lying to me. Truth helps build your relationship in terms of trust.
Let me paint a picture for you. You meet a guy in a place where you meet prospective partners. … Read the rest
If you’ve ever had a partner who suffers from any kind of depression, you know that it can be extremely difficult to maintain a relationship. It can be just as challenging when it changes with the seasons. Approximately 14% of Americans experience some degree of seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Typically it’s not as intense in the warmer climates, but it can still cause some winter blues that make it difficult to take joy in the things that usually make you happy. SAD is different from depression because it only affects individuals for selected months out of the year. The rest of the year, they can lead perfectly normal, happy lives and have satisfying relationships. But when SAD hits, it can hit some people so hard that it hurts their relationships. Here is how seasonal affective disorder affects your relationship.
Your partner can feel like just yesterday you popped up in the morning, excited to take on the day. In fact, if you suffer from SAD, you’re probably very happy during the spring and summer. You come to life during the warm months, so when the change of seasons—and, subsequently, your moods—occurs, your partner can feel like he’s waking up next to a different person.
It’s Hard on Your Partner Too
Even if your partner doesn’t suffer from SAD, he is probably mildly affected by the change of seasons. His friends aren’t planning as many barbecues, he isn’t getting as much vitamin D, and the sky just looks dreary.… Read the rest
If you’ve been to a bridal shower, then you have likely witness the “how well do you know your significant other” game. I am going to one next weekend, so I will be sure to watch out for this game. It’s usually filled with questions like “how does your partner take his coffee”. Or “what was the name of your partners first pet?” If the bride knows all the answers, it means she has been paying attention to her fiance. But does that mean that she truly knows him? I think of some of these questions and my boyfriend, and I’m not sure that I know the answer to them. So does that mean I don’t know him? Or are there more substantial questions you can think of that would demonstrate this relationship better? Well, if we could put a quiz together it would look something like this:
Where Does He Want to Retire
If your finance is dead set up on living somewhere rural, but you always say yourself retiring by the beach, that’s something you might want to talk about before you approach retirement.
What Would He Never Forgive You For?
This is big in my opinion. You should know it. Not because it would ever happen, but this is huge in understanding your partners limits. We all screw up in relationships. Some of us, more than others. So it’s important to know what those limits are.