If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, you are probably aware of how difficult it can be to sustain a sexual relationship with your partner. There always seems to be something – whether it’s kids, working too much, dealing with family – there’s always something going on. Wanting sex at the end of the day isn’t always a possibility. We often see this kind of thing on television shows. A wife jokingly rejecting her husband when he lets her know he is in the mood. But sometimes that’s how it happens in real life. Sure, the roles may be reversed in your scenario, but I think you know what I’m talking about.
So what happens to a relationship that makes one person not want to have sex anymore? Do you lose your sexual appetite? Do you just get bored in the bedroom? There has to be something happening that triggers this. For women, it can be hormonal. Birth control pills can wreak havoc on your sex life. I’ve been there, and it’s not an easy place to be. While I haven’t hit the menopause stage of my life, it can impact your sex drive as well. In both these cases though, it’s not always a suppression of your libido. It can go the other way too. I’m merely suggesting that hormones can certainly play a role.
But what else can? How busy you are in your life. I’ve mentioned this before, but I am in a long distance relationship. Which means I don’t get to come home and see my partner’s smiling face every day. There are days that this drives me insane, and makes me incredibly sad. But there are days that I appreciate my alone time. Especially when I don’t get home until late, and all I want to do is have a shower and go to bed. Let alone being intimate. For some, however, your busy time might include the birth of a new child. It could be because of increased work hours, or not getting work done around your house. And this isn’t anything to be worried about. There is an ebb and flow to relationships – sex included.
Where I’m going with this is that it might be beneficial to schedule time to have sex. It doesn’t sound romantic, I know. But it can be. Think about it like you would schedule or plan anything in your life. Whether it’s working out, or getting the oil changed in your car. It’s a necessary part of your life. You can’t neglect it, or your relationship will fall apart. Just like your car. And there are benefits to having regular sex – it can help you sleep, reduce your risk of cancer and even help you burn calories. It can reduce your stress levels, and even enhance the communication between you and your spouse. These are all really good things.
Scheduling sex will boost the connection you have with your partner, and give you some much needed alone time. You don’t necessarily have to choose a specific day during the week that you’re going to do it, but you could simply say that you’re going to do it once a week to start. Increase it if you feel like you want to and you can. Like I said, it doesn’t sound romantic, but it will improve your relationship and your health overall. It will also help get you through the busy time in your life and you might not need to schedule it in the future.