Did you know more than 50% off all marriages in the great United States of America end in divorce? Out of that 50% more than 80% of them end do lack of intimacy or monetary issues. The Journal of Sex Research said partners who said they were monogamous had in fact slept with someone outside of the relationship at least once. Some would say if you are going to do all that in the first place, why get married or get in to a monogamous relationship? Maybe we have it wrong. Maybe open relationships are the way things should be. If you read early chapters of the bible it sure was rampant and most behavioral scientists say monogamy is unnatural.
What is an an open relationship anyway? It’s when couple agree to be together, titles and everything but also agree to have relations; romantic or otherwise with other people. boundaries of acceptable behavior.
Most of society has condemned people who are in Open Relationships. They see them as practice them as “selfish” or they just don’t understand why someone would do it. That was my first thought about Will Smith and his wife Jada. They seem to have a great relationship and family. Yet they have been in a very public open relationship for many years. They claim that it helps their marriage rather than hurt it. This seem to be the claim of many people in open relationships.
They say people in monogamous relationships cheat then act like nothing like that would ever and has never happened. In an Open Relationship you know what your partner is doing. You two set up the rules of what is acceptable and what is not. You set out what works for you. My question to the only Open Relationship couple I know was what happens when the rules yourselves set up are not followed. They replied with “We would setup new rules.” I thought to myself, no I would not. I would look for another relationship. That was my first thought. Then I thought about it a little more. They are already in other relationships. What is the big deal constantly changing the rules of the game. Cheaters do it all the time.
I will take it a step further and ask is emotional being tied to someone else cheating? If it is then would that be an open relationship too? I have been with a someone yet had a female friend that was platonic but emotionally we were very connected. My girlfriend knew it and was ok as long as I didn’t “do any thing stupid”, code for don’t you dare sleep with her. She was ok with it because I was with her. She had the title. So does that make me a cheater even if it is just emotional or was that an open relationship?
So are we as a society left with the option of being in a monogamous relationship where someone might cheat on you from time to time or be in an open relationship where they cheat openly with your permission?