Finding love is important and you should not let pride get in the way. On the other hand sometimes pride can be not only your friend but also your protection. Pride stops you from looking desperate.  Pride helps you not settle for less. So I repeat, No man wants a woman who is desperate. Here is the things not to do if you do not want to look desperate:

[I] Confidence
You know you have a lot to offer, so act like it.  We guys like women that are sure of themselves. Be confident and demand more out of the person trying to get with you. Do not just settle for what ever your partner expects from you. Do what is best for you and stand by it

[II] Live your life
Don’t be  on call. You’re not a doctor and should not be ready for his every whim. We do like some challenges. Not every text needs to be jumped on right away. We want to be part of your life not your everything. Do you sometimes.

[III] Clingy is not sexy
We want to know you’re still interested but not so much that you don’t give us room to breathe.   Let us start the communication once in a while.

[IV] Brains are sexy
I don’t know about other guys but for me I love brains. I can’t stand a girl who has no education. That does not mean you must have a PhD or a masters but you should be able to carry a conversation past Dancing with the Stars.  You don’t have to be a techie but be comfortable enough with whatever you are talking about.

[V] No labels please
What its only been like 3 dates. Why has your Facebook relationship status  changed to ‘In a Relationship’? Slow down a bit. Yes, I like you but come on can I get some time to make sure we actually work.  Requesting or worse demanding a label is the fastest way to make a guy run for the exit .

[VI] Over analyzing is like creating your own purgatory
Try as you may you will never think like a guy unless you are one. So stop trying to understand our actions. If I don’t call you back; that means I don’t want to call you back. You calling me does not change that. If fact chasing after a guy that does not give you the time of day just makes you look desperate.

Note: Woman looking sideways — Image by © Patrik Giardino/Blend Images/Corbis

By Rubens Saintel

Proud father, #Haitian, photographer, consultant, writer & entrepreneur. I love video games, movies, plays, technology (surprise), beta testing apps and all things sci-fi. | |

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